The Face of Honesty

Sister Mohini holds up a mirror which can provide us all with useful reflection

Sometimes ambition without aim, purpose or clarity can be dangerous.  Ambition is fine as long as there is discrimination as to how a desire will affect others.  This is real honesty.  Honesty is something that neither brings harm to the self nor hurts others.

Most of the time, when we think of values like humility and lightness, thoughts turn to the self; but when we think of honesty, the thought turns outward.  Conflict arises when we begin to think that honesty means fulfilling all our own desires.  When honesty is understood as bringing satisfaction only to the self, this is not total honesty.

People who are addicted sometimes feel as though they can’t feel the pain. It’s the same with thoughts: there are certain thoughts that are not beneficial for us, but we allow them to continue because we don’t feel the damage these thoughts bring.  Honesty is not just being natural, but giving to ourselves what is good and positive.

When a person uses abusive language, they often feel that they are just being ‘frank’.  However, this frankness is a form of dishonesty because the person is not only hurting others, but the self as well.  The power to discriminate is needed to determine which words bring relief and peace to the self and others.  This is honesty.

Each part of the body is assigned a place.  The tongue is supposed to be behind the bars of the teeth.   It is said that before you speak, think many times because the wound caused by the sword of the tongue heals very slowly.

If you are honest, any little difficulty only comes to make you more honest. In performing various day to day tasks, we should ask ourselves: “Am I really being honest?”  Any difficulty is because of lack of honesty
The more honesty, the more feelings of lightness we have and the burdens are taken off us.

We need to make sure that there is no selfishness mixed in with our honesty and that we are not trying to manipulate a situation or person in the name of honesty.  Whatever is true or real should not be mixed.
Honesty—with the self, in our words and in relationships—is very important.

No one can take what belongs to us and we cannot take what belongs to anyone else out of greed or fear. Ghandi’s clothing was simple because he believed that if it were more than simple he would be guilty of taking someone else’s share.  When we learn to share then we are free from jealousy and things seem to come to us.

Before most of us became spiritual seekers or practitioners, we experienced disharmony because of breaking certain laws of the universe.  Once we learn to adopt honesty not only does disharmony dissolve, but there is never fear of what is going to happen to us.  When we lack honesty, we live in fear.  Lack of honesty creates sadness and insecurity.  An honest person will always feel secure. 

Respect is the essential core of humility and we should respect a person for whatever or whoever they are, while knowing that they need to change a few elements in their characters.  According to the respect we give others, that much respect will be given to us in return.

The converse of humility is ego.  We can develop ego from having many things, or from having nothing at all.  Inferiority is also considered ego.  In order to destroy ego, the consciousness of being a trustee is necessary. Trusteeship means that we don’t own something, but it has been given to us.  No one has brought anything with them to this earth.  When we came we were not wearing our clothes even, they were given to us.  As much as we can be caretakers or trustees with honesty, that much we can experience abundance and then there is no need for arrogance.

We witness heaviness because we walk around in ‘title consciousness’: “I am this, I am that.”  This makes us feel burdened.  If we perform our tasks as trustees, we can be very, very light.  Another reason we experience burden is because we do not have enough tolerance or patience, and so we respond negatively in our relationships with others and we don’t know how to forgive.  Forgiving means for giving.  We become so light when we give.  Take what is useful, and don’t create a file of anyone’s negativity.

Sister Mohini is the Director of Brahma Kumaris Centres in North and South America and the Caribbean.

#13 2016-01-26 03:55 - Dip narayan gupta
it teaches me about..being myself who i am and what i can do.Also to trust yourself..thank you..for this article
#12 2013-03-10 18:10 - Dhruv
Om Shanti, sister mohini! and thanks a lot for this article. I think I have gained something very important feature of LIFE. Instead of worrying what others are doing or telling or reacting or thinking, I must check upon me, what am I doing ? and all answers are in front. Yes, instead of covering the whole earth, it is advisable to wear chappals or shoes to cover and protect your feet. Inspiring bundle of Good Thoughts!
#11 2011-08-06 12:51 - surendra shrestha
Om Shanti, Sister Mohini,

After going through this article I am feeling very peace in my inner heart. Thank you so much for this great article.

Professor Surendra
#10 2011-03-18 12:27 - bhavin pithdiya
I am very interested in this. It gives the mind power, happiness, knowledge and truth of life. It enables direct contact with God.
#9 2011-02-01 18:03 - Mousumi
My heartfelt thanks, Sister Mohini. Your article has given me an insight as to what is my level of honesty.This interpretation of Honesty is so true and revealing.OM SHANTI..
#8 2010-09-05 18:41 - Neha
Sometimes we all struggle in life--we're lost, we know we have done the best we can in our relationships, but maybe it was never meant to be. This article made me realize that my nature might be to forgive, but my partner's nature might not be that. I have to be honest with myself, accept that and move on, instead of hoping that he will change... Om Shanti :)
#7 2010-08-25 18:44 - shelly
om shanti ..I really feel lighter after reading this article. I really wonder how it is that we all become so engrossed in the material world--when we know that nothing comes here with us and nothing goes with us to next world...
#6 2010-06-24 11:45 - Krishna
Om Shanti, After reading this article by Sister Mohini, I feel pleased and proud to have reached this site. I will read it again and again in order to put its points into habitual practise and to become a master source of virtues, I feel that I hold this real, moral knowledge in trust, and I pray to God that I may have opportunities in my daily life to apply it.
Thank you from the core of my heart for this article.
Om Shanti,
Krishna Puri
Pokhara, Nepal
#5 2010-04-10 07:16 - lalit
Om Shanti, Sister Mohini,

I'm feeling very good after read this article. It gives me more knowledge about how we can make ourselves be honest.
#4 2010-04-04 22:04 - aj
This is the second time I have read this concise and refreshing article- lightness when considering ourselves as trustees! Thank you x
#3 2010-03-16 05:23 - Ashok kumar gouda
many thanks to sister mohini.i hanve read your thoughts about `face of honesty`
I have inspired about this.
#2 2010-03-12 14:50 - Vani
Wonderful article. Healthy feast to our mind and body.
Thanks Sister Mohini.
Om Shanti.
#1 2010-03-04 12:06 - bk.yogesh
om shanti after reading this article it gave me a clear out look in judging my own thoughts which i am not aware that it is a subtle negativity. regards want more article from experienced nimith brothers and sisters. bk.yogesh chennai tamil nadu, india.