Dealing with Conflict

Manda Patel

We live in a world where conflict is now the norm.  Why is that?

I think that we’ve lost our inner strength and the ability to exercise what we understand to be right and true. We know that fighting doesn’t get us anywhere and quarrelling doesn’t get us what we want - it just creates a lot of negative energy - but we just can’t help ourselves. What we need to do is develop our own internal strength, recognise our own value, recognise the value of other people and accept and understand the diversity in our world.

Is there a connection between inner conflict and conflict with others?

Everything begins with ourselves. If I’m fighting with other people, I’m battling with something inside myself. Perhaps I’m not able to put into practice something I believe in or am having to compromise my values. This battling makes me lose my inner strength and value. When I’m unhappy with myself, it comes out in my interaction with others. When a group of people are unhappy, it comes out on a bigger scale. The more understanding and peaceful we become, the more accepting and loving we become, and we reflect that in our relationships.

To stay quiet and withdraw in a situation of conflict might be seen as weakness. Can spirituality be a strength?

We cannot gain internal strength without spirituality.  By spirituality I mean to recognise that I am more than just this physical appearance.  My strength lies in my awareness of myself as a spiritual being – a living, thinking being, the essence of peace, of love and happiness.  The more I experience this, the more I experience strength inside myself. To be quiet doesn’t mean to run away; it means to evaluate my thoughts and feelings before I express them. 

What if you know you’re right? How do you achieve what you want whilst keeping your spiritual awareness? 

The main thing is patience. This is something I’ve really had to work on. I might be right but I have to wait for that moment when everybody else agrees. That way I also let people learn their own lessons. Maybe from where I am it’s possible to see quickly how things will happen, but others have to get to that place before they can see it. I have to learn to accept that what is right will eventually become apparentt and exercise my own patience.

We may recognise the need to change but how do we do it?

We eat to survive but if I want to survive mentally in a happy state, I have to feed myself with silence, positive thoughts, the qualities that I have inside me. I have to be conscious of these every day, as many times as I can, and so build up my inner strength.

 

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articlesworldbank
# articlesworldbank 2016-01-27 16:09

great effort fruitfull content keep it up

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Laverne
# Laverne 2016-01-13 10:26
I thoroughly enjoyed this article. So true!
thank you
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teena
# teena 2015-12-10 04:08
very good article.please keep on posting more articles like how we can make others understand like if they are doing something wrong n how we can save ourselves from being hurt by others actios specially if they are close to us.
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Muhammad Qasim
# Muhammad Qasim 2015-11-18 10:49
its very good article.I like to managing the conflict in our socitey
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John Bosco B
# John Bosco B 2015-11-08 09:52
Thank you so much for what you are doing. I am touched. I am from Uganda. Is it possible to work with you so that we shall also benefit from you. We need those spiritual retreats.

We shall be happy if we are considered.
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Ndina
# Ndina 2015-10-31 13:06
Very touching,
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Smithe95
# Smithe95 2015-10-05 12:53

Im grateful for the blog article.Much thanks again. Cool.

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ARJUN
# ARJUN 2015-09-08 07:10
really a wonderful article.........OM SHANTI
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Srujana
# Srujana 2015-08-22 10:25
Great article!Remembrance of one and experiencing peace from the one gives inner strength to deal conflicts.
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Shyam
# Shyam 2015-07-09 21:26
This is a really great article, simple and clear. I am printing it to keep on my desk so that i can read it every morning when i come in to work
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Delphine
# Delphine 2015-06-16 23:05
"let people learn their own lessons" is a great thought.
Thanks for helping us getting to that place ourselves.
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Reiki Healing
# Reiki Healing 2015-05-26 09:04

the article gives spirit, really remind me to get the best...

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Smithe139
# Smithe139 2015-04-02 06:14

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vikas
# vikas 2015-03-11 14:51
very good article...
thanks
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# Puneet 2015-03-07 16:16
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DIGANTA GOGOI
# DIGANTA GOGOI 2015-03-04 09:26
Very nice article.
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swati dwivedi
# swati dwivedi 2014-12-25 17:39
at tyms jst simple words cn boost up ur inner strength to another level..thank u so much 4 a beautiful article...__/\__
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surendra sharma
# surendra sharma 2014-11-23 05:29
valuable article for strengthening the power of human being to tackle the challenges.
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Jizzy
# Jizzy 2014-11-17 16:07
Om shanti, thanks for such a simple way of describing in detail to conquer such a complex subject.
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sethupathy ponniah
# sethupathy ponniah 2014-11-09 22:51
I am so lucky to have read your article as I need to practice on my inner strength to remain calm and avoid conflict

Sethu
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Balmiki Ray
# Balmiki Ray 2014-10-16 11:01
Happiness cannot be chased, it can only be felt, regardless of the situation around us.
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Bhavani Ragimanu
# Bhavani Ragimanu 2014-09-13 22:29
This article gave the answer for which i was looking for a long time,it made me to understand why am in conflict with others in each and every aspect,actually am in conflict with my inner voice which was always asking me to do what i was really interested in....but which am not able to....now this article made it clear that my soul actually needs peace and silence which helps to have control on my thoughts... thank you so much ...Om Shanthi..
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Smithk812
# Smithk812 2014-09-02 23:17

I loved your blog article. Really Cool.

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Riitu kaamaal
# Riitu kaamaal 2014-08-15 06:44
Thank you very much.This article must change my thought process.
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Shova Maharjan
# Shova Maharjan 2014-08-07 02:29
Well summarized, especially when we, the people are in dealing with the resource conflict to meet our unlimited demands within the limited means. It's a way forward how beautifully the PATIENCE would and could awake us as well as maintain our living.
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Spoorthi
# Spoorthi 2014-07-18 12:20
True.
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Bharathi K
# Bharathi K 2014-06-30 15:19
More Valuable and awesome.
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Rupal barad
# Rupal barad 2014-06-21 20:05
Very true this is well written as everybody knows patience is very important in our day to day life's but very few practice it actually. This article will inspire a lot of people.
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M Kapadia
# M Kapadia 2014-06-19 19:40
Great tips. Patience is the mother of all solutions.
Patience ...is... Love in action!
Many thnx.
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Samarjit Singh
# Samarjit Singh 2014-05-27 16:49

This article Give Me inner strength. It also clear the spectacles of my inner-self.

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Deep Singh
# Deep Singh 2014-05-07 08:03
Pure souls have patience and will be in silence. Its good to have your silence time so that you can go deep inside you and find what you are . Once you have unfolded the inner strength of yourself and control on your thoughts you are the leading your path to the tunnel towards the point of light ie our paraamdham
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amit sharma
# amit sharma 2014-05-02 14:41
when you really understand yourself, baba and drama no conflict can make you worry because everything which is visible is mortal.
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pooja joshi
# pooja joshi 2014-04-16 09:35
thank you very much brahma kumari...
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Usha Dattani
# Usha Dattani 2014-04-05 23:10
Conflict resolution a peaceful way. Every article I read is awakening for me.
Oum shanti
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pavan
# pavan 2014-04-05 07:09
very nice article... hope everybody understands the meaning of the word patience and stop treating people who r patient as one without virtues.... Time is the healer, VERY TRUE.
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Sindhu
# Sindhu 2014-04-04 08:12

it realy helps me in my current situation of life thanx

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Undule Mwakasungula
# Undule Mwakasungula 2014-03-27 01:15
It gives me peace basically .am missing such teachings ,keep it up. I need. To enroll for long period on this .
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Sunita Chopra
# Sunita Chopra 2014-03-24 15:04
v nice article, I read everyday, and try to bring in my daily life.
thanks to B.k. Om Santi.
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rajiv
# rajiv 2014-03-03 14:38
superb
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sreeyoga
# sreeyoga 2014-02-01 10:50
Thanks. Something to read often and ponder on.We all want peace in our lives.
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Eacho
# Eacho 2014-01-03 10:31
thanks
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Neez
# Neez 2013-10-21 06:20
very nice article, something which is helping me to be a better mother,better wife and on the top of everything better human being
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Sonali Bhakta
# Sonali Bhakta 2013-10-17 00:01

Thank you for the precious article.It is a lighthouse for us all souls looking for self improvement. If we can really practice the information provided our victory is guaranteed.
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manoj
# manoj 2013-10-09 14:28
i learn this article by heart and it helps me to keep update myself to relies my own strength. eventually, it's a great article.
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abdul rahim
# abdul rahim 2013-07-31 19:49
Great article. Indeed Allah says in Quran that

“Be patient (in adversity); for, verily, God will not let the reward of the righteous be wasted.“
——— The Holy Quran, Chapter 11, Verse 115.
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princy
# princy 2013-07-06 01:55
its charging and giving strength to get live in better way day by day
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elena
# elena 2013-06-26 12:30
Great article. I read it daily to remind myself I want to awake to my spirituality to live in peace.
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nandu Jindam
# nandu Jindam 2013-06-14 15:23

more valuable answers..

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Satya Narain
# Satya Narain 2013-06-09 18:34
Nice article
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