Healing Anger

Question & Answer with Dadi Janki   

There is a lot of anger and resentment between teachers and young people, which is unproductive – it doesn’t help things. How can I deal with this anger better?

I can learn to stay peaceful inside and share that feeling with young people, so that they can free themselves from their own anger.  If someone throws something at me, like an insult or an angry comment, I can just let it drop and leave it lying there. By not picking up another person’s anger, I protect myself and at the same time give them the chance to take it back. 

To be angry is to be out of control and so someone who is angry deserves our love and compassion more than ever. By staying in my own peace and patience and keeping my self-respect, I help others to do the same. By seeing people’s good qualities, I empower both myself and them.  This is true generosity.

When I create sweetness inside, I can share it with others. For this I need to spend time in silence and really get to know and love my true, spiritual self and connect with the Divine. At the Brahma Kumaris, we use the words, ‘Om shanti’, which mean ‘I am a peaceful soul’, to remind us of who we really are - no matter what is happening around us.  To be peaceful is to be powerful.  It is also our natural way of being.


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0 # Ankita 2017-01-17 20:17
How can u anybody stop his/her thinking process ??? How can I accept everything going around me is right ?? how can I hear insult or scolding when I know I m wrong ?? how I can stop worrying about partiality being done to me ??? help me plse
0 # Seema 2016-11-16 20:00
How to make our lives peace in the our busy life
0 # subramanyam 2016-09-27 03:33
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0 # Manmit Parmar 2016-09-26 17:30 Reply
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0 # Manoj Kumar Agrawal 2016-08-02 14:18
Really ..it's a good idea that gives peace to minds and to get rid of anger...
0 # priya 2016-01-17 11:46
Om shanti...it helps to stay peaceful and calm.
0 # Ashutosh 2016-01-12 17:10
Om shanti,
I have completed my 7 days course at my near by meditation centre & finally this special gift given by shiv baba after doing the rajyog at my home its feel me great & like to thank all the members of Om shanti gyan mandir.
0 # helen 2015-12-28 22:39
mindfulness has been helping me , and I look forward to returning to talks and c.d.'s in the new year . Direct yourself in mind , body and spirit , to have a good year in 2016 - Positive thinking helps me alot. Good luck to good people . Om Shanti .
Dr.Kumarendra Nath
0 # Dr.Kumarendra Nath 2015-10-24 17:59
Peace of Mind is the gift of GOD . We people think many Negatives, but we should think every step of live Positive.All positive thinking is the positive results.
0 # Eka 2015-07-23 06:20
Thank you for this arcticle...
Deep learn for this :)
Om Shanti
0 # Amit 2015-05-11 11:40
Om Shanti or Om chanting is very powerful tool or any mantra one can chose to repeat when in anger or upset...try it it , it really benefits if implemented with all the honesty...We are all peaceful souls....

God to have positive thoughts and guidance from this site
0 # rritambhara 2015-04-25 19:08
I want to make myself maintain my flow of positive energy to keep myself stable and powerful, peaceful and blissful
0 # Moderator 2015-03-19 11:17

Hi Tanu, Thanks for your comment. Please visit a center near you for more information. Attending the free courses offered there s the best way to learn more about how to change the self. Best wishes for success!

0 # tanu 2015-03-19 03:26
om shanti
Sometimes i watch ur programmes on tv. I get many answers about my questions. when ever i am unhappy i watch ur program , be listening ur words i feel calm and happy. i want to live my life with postive attitude and want others to do same and to give happiness to all.so plz tell me how to change my self .
0 # akshay 2014-11-01 06:27
i've joined brahmakumaris only 10 days ago and i've been there regular for murlis and i can feel amazing changes in me and yes now i can control anger.
0 # JAYANTA 2014-09-23 12:33
everyone is under the control of LUCK and none can steal other's luck. everything happens in accordance with the destiny. so why I will be bothered with what is happening? if I consider this fact, then, automatically anger flies away from me. Om shanti.
Manisha Mishra
0 # Manisha Mishra 2014-09-10 16:37
Om Shanti..
Thank You..
It is a nice article...
komal giri prasad
0 # komal giri prasad 2014-09-02 07:12
very nice magazine i will share to my friends
0 # Nidhi 2014-08-26 15:50

Om shanti Nice article really i felt this is right. We should give him love becoz anger can be won only only by love

0 # M.V.RAMANA 2014-07-30 08:45
Angar is a self destroyer emotions.
Avoid or keep yourself away from situations that provoke anger and be calm and try to leave the person or work spot. "HELP EVER, HURT NEVER". Self controlled of the tongue is practised , many of the ills of the world would be avoided or healed. The boneless tongue so small can crush and kill or save the world.Thus cultivate the habit of LOVE in the gardenf of your heart by removing the weeds of jealousy,hatred, revenge, anger, pride and selfishness.We can not lead peaceful life unless we think peacefully.
0 # ayajiv 2013-11-27 11:40
SUPERB ideas!i Love them!
0 # shamsa 2013-11-25 17:19

I listen ur programe on tv show in morming.but I live in Pakistan. it is really wonderful and is help too. I too in this path. I had veryNice teacher,but he is in Heaven with Lord.

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0 # Orlando Security Detail 2013-11-01 11:59
I can just let it drop and leave it lying there. By not picking up another person’s anger, I protect myself and at the same time give them the chance to take it back.
0 # Rosy 2013-10-20 02:07

Anger comes from frustration and wounded past "just like when": when my father beat me because I was a bad daughter, when he needed to get his anger out at me from his own guilt. When my husband lies to me about his responsibility to his parents and family, leaving me and the children to suffer. When my mother-in-law polished my husband to hate me. When i was not respected for who I am in my marriage and feel like an outsider. The story does not change. I have taken a turn to go inside and do for myself all that I want from others. There is something out there much bigger than me, I am puppet.

Rohit Sharma
0 # Rohit Sharma 2013-10-15 11:08
om shanti,
Thank you very much for all these for being peaceful soul.

Om Shanti.
0 # Moderator 2013-04-15 19:27

Dear Readers, Many comments have been submitted to this article requesting help on dealing with anger, especially when one has been hurt or is being provoked. Individual advice cannot be given in response to such queries which, due to their personal nature, are not posted. Please visit a center near you (look in the menu "Where We Are" under "Locations Near You" to find one) to see if they are offering our course on Anger Management. Also, consider investing in the book by Mike George, "Don't Get Mad, Get Wise" available from one of our bookstores (also under the "Where We Are" menu on this website). Thanks for understanding.

0 # Trupti 2013-03-22 23:00
Om santi
0 # Moderator 2013-03-19 22:08

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0 # priyanka 2013-03-17 03:54
om shanti bks
I use to see awakening with brahmakumaris..
always feel nice & light to see that show.
but how to meditate? tell me...plz
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0 # umesh sharma 2013-03-07 08:13
hi, this is umesh sharma.

i watch your show everyday ...and like that so much, which makes me motivate to approach the things and to improve our life with such a grt thughts.

thanks a lot.
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0 # Articles Moderator 2013-03-04 17:55
Dear Rahul,

Please see our Stress-Free Living page: [censored]://[censored].bkwsu.org//whatwedo/courses/stressfreeliving.htm.

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0 # rahul singh 2013-03-04 06:09
how to come out of stress and tension of studies?
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0 # Dr Vrinda Sikri 2013-02-28 11:17

Sneha follow these points: Deep Breathing. Avoid or keep yourself away from situations that provoke anger. Chant any mantra/ try counting which ever comes in immediate rememberance. Tighten the twist and keep saying to yourself, no not me, I shall not let myself flow. Om Shanti

0 # varun 2013-02-28 06:08

how to get relief from tensions and how to get control of stress, anger and bad thoughts on my mind , negative . plzz help me
Chandrahas Khute
0 # Chandrahas Khute 2013-02-07 08:35
Hello, Om Shanti.
I am a regular practitioner of Rajayoga Meditation at my home in the morning and evening hour. Earlier I was getting irritated and upset for very small things but by practice of meditation I feel more and more peace and happiness even in odd situations. Slowly peace and silence becomes our natural nature and we don't get disturbed by trivial things. So, it is my humble request to learn Rajyoga meditation taught by Brahmakumaris Centres as early as possible to enjoy the real essence of life. OM SHANTI.
0 # sneha 2013-02-06 17:55
but.how to control anger