Dealing with Conflict

Manda Patel

We live in a world where conflict is now the norm.  Why is that?

I think that we’ve lost our inner strength and the ability to exercise what we understand to be right and true. We know that fighting doesn’t get us anywhere and quarrelling doesn’t get us what we want - it just creates a lot of negative energy - but we just can’t help ourselves. What we need to do is develop our own internal strength, recognise our own value, recognise the value of other people and accept and understand the diversity in our world.

Is there a connection between inner conflict and conflict with others?

Everything begins with ourselves. If I’m fighting with other people, I’m battling with something inside myself. Perhaps I’m not able to put into practice something I believe in or am having to compromise my values. This battling makes me lose my inner strength and value. When I’m unhappy with myself, it comes out in my interaction with others. When a group of people are unhappy, it comes out on a bigger scale. The more understanding and peaceful we become, the more accepting and loving we become, and we reflect that in our relationships.

To stay quiet and withdraw in a situation of conflict might be seen as weakness. Can spirituality be a strength?

We cannot gain internal strength without spirituality.  By spirituality I mean to recognise that I am more than just this physical appearance.  My strength lies in my awareness of myself as a spiritual being – a living, thinking being, the essence of peace, of love and happiness.  The more I experience this, the more I experience strength inside myself. To be quiet doesn’t mean to run away; it means to evaluate my thoughts and feelings before I express them. 

What if you know you’re right? How do you achieve what you want whilst keeping your spiritual awareness? 

The main thing is patience. This is something I’ve really had to work on. I might be right but I have to wait for that moment when everybody else agrees. That way I also let people learn their own lessons. Maybe from where I am it’s possible to see quickly how things will happen, but others have to get to that place before they can see it. I have to learn to accept that what is right will eventually become apparentt and exercise my own patience.

We may recognise the need to change but how do we do it?

We eat to survive but if I want to survive mentally in a happy state, I have to feed myself with silence, positive thoughts, the qualities that I have inside me. I have to be conscious of these every day, as many times as I can, and so build up my inner strength.

 

Comments  
#49 2020-07-03 18:42 - Willyan Cruz
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#48 2016-01-27 16:09 - articlesworldbank

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#47 2016-01-13 10:26 - Laverne
I thoroughly enjoyed this article. So true!
thank you
#46 2015-12-10 04:08 - teena
very good article.please keep on posting more articles like how we can make others understand like if they are doing something wrong n how we can save ourselves from being hurt by others actios specially if they are close to us.
#45 2015-11-18 10:49 - Muhammad Qasim
its very good article.I like to managing the conflict in our socitey
#44 2015-11-08 09:52 - John Bosco B
Thank you so much for what you are doing. I am touched. I am from Uganda. Is it possible to work with you so that we shall also benefit from you. We need those spiritual retreats.

We shall be happy if we are considered.
#43 2015-10-31 13:06 - Ndina
Very touching,
#42 2015-10-05 12:53 - Smithe95

Im grateful for the blog article.Much thanks again. Cool.

#41 2015-09-08 07:10 - ARJUN
really a wonderful article.........OM SHANTI
#40 2015-08-22 10:25 - Srujana
Great article!Remembrance of one and experiencing peace from the one gives inner strength to deal conflicts.
#39 2015-07-09 21:26 - Shyam
This is a really great article, simple and clear. I am printing it to keep on my desk so that i can read it every morning when i come in to work
#38 2015-06-16 23:05 - Delphine
"let people learn their own lessons" is a great thought.
Thanks for helping us getting to that place ourselves.
#37 2015-05-26 09:04 - Reiki Healing

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#35 2015-03-11 14:51 - vikas
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#34 2015-03-04 09:26 - DIGANTA GOGOI
Very nice article.
#33 2014-12-25 17:39 - swati dwivedi
at tyms jst simple words cn boost up ur inner strength to another level..thank u so much 4 a beautiful article...__/\__
#32 2014-11-23 05:29 - surendra sharma
valuable article for strengthening the power of human being to tackle the challenges.
#31 2014-11-17 16:07 - Jizzy
Om shanti, thanks for such a simple way of describing in detail to conquer such a complex subject.
#30 2014-11-09 22:51 - sethupathy ponniah
I am so lucky to have read your article as I need to practice on my inner strength to remain calm and avoid conflict

Sethu
#29 2014-10-16 11:01 - Balmiki Ray
Happiness cannot be chased, it can only be felt, regardless of the situation around us.
#28 2014-09-13 22:29 - Bhavani Ragimanu
This article gave the answer for which i was looking for a long time,it made me to understand why am in conflict with others in each and every aspect,actually am in conflict with my inner voice which was always asking me to do what i was really interested in....but which am not able to....now this article made it clear that my soul actually needs peace and silence which helps to have control on my thoughts... thank you so much ...Om Shanthi..
#27 2014-09-02 23:17 - Smithk812

I loved your blog article. Really Cool.

#26 2014-08-15 06:44 - Riitu kaamaal
Thank you very much.This article must change my thought process.
#25 2014-08-07 02:29 - Shova Maharjan
Well summarized, especially when we, the people are in dealing with the resource conflict to meet our unlimited demands within the limited means. It's a way forward how beautifully the PATIENCE would and could awake us as well as maintain our living.
#24 2014-07-18 12:20 - Spoorthi
True.
#23 2014-06-30 15:19 - Bharathi K
More Valuable and awesome.
#22 2014-06-21 20:05 - Rupal barad
Very true this is well written as everybody knows patience is very important in our day to day life's but very few practice it actually. This article will inspire a lot of people.
#21 2014-06-19 19:40 - M Kapadia
Great tips. Patience is the mother of all solutions.
Patience ...is... Love in action!
Many thnx.
#20 2014-05-27 16:49 - Samarjit Singh

This article Give Me inner strength. It also clear the spectacles of my inner-self.