Om shanti. It is only when we become detached, that we become instruments to serve others. For this, we must keep our hearts clear. Don’t compare yourself with one another. No two can be the same. Each one’s part is different.
Become one without desires. If you say, “I love this”, it’s a subtle indication that you want something. Even a little bit of desire, can create possessiveness. As you make progress on your spiritual path, you will develop disinterest, and then you can experience freedom from attachment to things in the physical world.
When you are free from attachment to people or things, then you will serve naturally with your pure feelings and spiritual love.